Personal Essays“Of course I’m self-centered; I’m a non-fiction writer.” —Me. Business InsiderI helped raise my nephew, and now I'm pretty sure I don't want to have kids. Parenting requires too much sacrifice.I was afraid of losing my ex because I didn't want kids. I realized I'd be losing myself if I compromised.I was celibate for a year, and then I met someone 10 years younger. Our 3-month fling changed everything for me.